Just a few weeks left and the kids will be home for the summer. Some of you may be looking forward to all of the fun activities you have planned, while others are wondering how in the world you will make it to August without committing a murder/suicide!
Some tips for you Mom’s that you may already know, but probably bear repeating!
- Do not be surprised when your kids act like kids! Yes, they will fight, whine, complain and sleep. They will say they are bored then argue about not wanting to do the things you plan to keep them busy. That is what kids do, and if you start each day waiting for it you will handle it much better.
- Create some structure. Have a daily list of tasks for them to complete. Don’t argue about it. Simply let them know nothing else happens if they don’t complete them. Be selfish and choose things that benefit you!
- Have them make suggestions on activities early on and plan them. Don’t worry if they all do not want to take part. If you leave one or more to be by themselves or do something else that is fine. Time alone with individual kids is always good for them and you.
- Always schedule time for you! You are of no use to anyone else if you are not doing things that re-fuel and feed you! Plan ahead for those things as well, and you will find that you will experience the feelings of resentment less on the days when you do not have a moment to yourself!
Let the rain kiss you. Let the rain beat upon your head with silver liquid drops. Let the rain sing you a lullaby. ~Langston Hughes
There is always a silver lining. Always!
I was reminiscing about my farm. I sold it a couple of years ago. I shared many good times there with friends and family. I was feeling sad that I had to let it go. I was feeling sad that life is so different now then it was then. Life has changed so much, and change often brings stress, fear and anxiety about what might lie ahead.
But there is always a silver lining. The memories abound. Time shared with people I love and who love me. So much laughter! Deep conversations while taking long walks. Hard work cutting wood followed by leisurely floating in the pond.
I shared an idea with a friend this week from a book I read by Rob Bell. He shared a view that heaven and hell are here. They are the life we make for ourselves. My thought to my friend was this:
When hell rears its ugly head I choose to kick it in the ass and make a little heaven!
Find that silver lining. Don’t stop looking until you find it! When you think it is not there keep looking! Because it is always there!