Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away. ~Elbert Hubbard
Now that Valentines Day is over, many of you are probably happy with the gifts and expressions of love you received, and some of you might be lamenting the ill attempts made by those around you. Regardless, we can all find love but most importantly, the easy way to receive love is to give it.
Not long ago a friend shared with me how a co-worker was more often than not surly. He found her annoying and difficult to deal with. I suggested a different approach. My suggestion was simple. Every time he was met with her less than kind gaze, he should smile and say something kind.
My suggestion was met with some resistance, but after holding my ground he agreed to do as I asked. The result was as I expected. She softened. She did not smile at first, but with every smile and kind word she let down her guard a bit more. By the end of one week she was speaking to him without his initiation.
So what is my point? Giving love and sharing kindness will give you love in return!
- Smile to those you interact with throughout the day, even the surly ones!
- Say a kind word, or find a compliment for someone everyday.
- Take time to find a connection with someone everyday.
It’s not that hard in theory, but in practice it might be a bit more difficult, but try it out, and let me know what you experience.
I sat this weekend and watched Under the Tuscan Sun. I loved it, and with Valentines Day around the corner, I couldn’t help connect with it as a single person. Inundated with commercials and talk of love and relationships, I watched as one woman navigated her way from love and loss to peace and acceptance.
The line that struck me was as follows. “My prayers to Saint Lorenzo were quickly answered, and I realized I already had someone to cook for. Plenty of someones.”
And with Valentines Day being the theme of everyone and everything around me, I think of that quote and am reminded that single or partnered, love abounds. I chop, and marinate. I broil and reduce. I set the table and light candles and they come. The ones who love me. We eat and laugh. We share toast’s and stories. We laugh some more.
I have so many someones. I love so many, as they do me. The universe made that clear to me as I reflected on the beauty shared in the lines and the landscape of Tuscany. Beauty is all around us, as is love. It may not be the love we desire at any given moment, but it is love none the less. And it fills us and feeds us until that romantic love we desire finally finds us.
So we wait. And the lesson to me is that we wait until the universe brings us what we need. Not what we want! We wait until that one comes to us who will not take us for granted. The one who will accept our faults, and purpose to put us first and meet our needs. The one who will sacrifice self and pride because their love for us is greater. The one who ultimately through actions of selfless love brings safety and security.
So whether you are waiting, or wanting or sharing in love,
Find the love that is around you everyday!
Share love with those close to you everyday!
Celebrate the love you have everyday!
Let the Universe always teach you how to love deeper and stronger!