These bruises make for better conversation.
These are the lyrics to a song by Train. I love the song. It resonates with me. I think it should resonate with everyone! “Everybody loses, we’ve all got bruises.”
We all do. We have been talking about shame. Prior we touched on our self-view and core beliefs. We can’t get through life without making mistakes, hurting others or being hurt. We can take medicine or go to therapy or just keep busy when dealing with the bruises. We often try to hide them from the view of others, but often times the most healing thing for us is to sit with an old friend over coffee and uncover them. Whether talking or listening, the knowledge that we are not alone in our pain, and that we are not judged is healing.
You may or may not know this, but Becky, my fellow blogger at Lipstick Chat is also my baby sister. I had not intended to mention her until just this moment as I was typing away. We have sat over many a cup of coffee sharing the good and bad of our lives, knowing the other understands because we both have wounds we have nursed for the other at one time or another. We have laughed and cried together over the years, and through it all have grown older, but wiser. A friend to share my life and struggles with who knows victory and defeat just as I do, result ing in a bond and trust that has grown throughout the years.
“These bruises make for better conversation. Loses the vibe that separates. It’s good to let you in again. You’re not alone in how you’ve been. Everybody loses. We all got bruises”
Call an old friend and have a cup of coffee this week!
Ideas are an interesting and misunderstood thing. We often think of them as singularities, the illustrious apple falling from a tree, and spend a lot time waiting for one to bonk us on the head.
Luckily, ideas don’t work quite like that. Turns out they’re more like delicate seedlings than bolts of lightning, and need lots of time and care to grow. The ah-ha moments are few and far between and often, in hindsight, can be traced back to a thought or idea months or years before.
Steven Johnson, acclaimed author and theorist, describes them like this:
An idea- a new idea – is a new network of neurons firing in sync with each other inside your brain. It’s a new configuration that has never formed before.
Ideas come from a variety of sources. They’re taken from other people, ignited by books we’ve read, and products of our life experiences. All of this data melds together to form completely new thoughts.
Here’s the most interesting part- Ideas blossom best amid chaos, where people with different viewpoints and backgrounds come together and their ideas bang into each other than voilà- a fantastic new concept!
That’s why this space is so sacred. It’s a place where a simple idea- connecting and empowering women, has a place to grow. And it’s the comments, the feedback, and the conversation from and with all of you that allows it to evolve and remain a constant, joyful surprise.
We are excited for the coming months and to test drive ideas- who knows where they’ll take us. We hope you come along for the ride!