Do I really have a choice?
At fifteen, life had taught me undeniably that surrender in its place, was as honorable as resistance, especially if one had no choice. – Maya Angelou
The HQ and I were having one of our enlightening discussions about choices. We like to practice for when we are retired in Boca . I am standing at a crossroad in my life, diligently working in the direction of my soul calling, while Divine timing has me returning to an old familiar place. Do I have a choice not to go? Sure, but making that decision would cause a domino effect of future decisions (no longer choices) that lack integrity and honesty. While the idea is tempting, I am no longer that girl. So, I am trying to stop resisting and surrender, recognizing that always my best choice is to trust in the Divine Plan. Believing as Maya Angelou said that this surrender is honorable.
In the past, I never contemplated the full ramifications of my choices. If it felt good, I did it, simple as that. Now I know that all my actions have consequences, and not just for me, but for the people who love me. I honor their love for me by continuing to do the next right thing.
Do you recognize that your choices have consequences? Can you acknowledge that one poor choice may lead to the domino effect of bad or no choices? Do you still have times when you know the choices you are making are going to lead to a train wreck, and yet, cannot stop yourself? Here are a few action steps we can take to ensure that our choices are in alignment with our core values.
- If the choice seems questionable, play the tape all the way through. Sure, those $500 Jimmy Choo shoes look great, but if you struggle to meet your monthly bills, make the conscious decision to do the next right thing.
- Take a moment to think about all the people this decision will affect. Will this one choice lead to the domino effect discussed above? Will the end result bring happiness and joy, or will it hurt or harm anyone, including you? Make the obvious choice.
- If you made a poor choice, and we all do, simply own it. Apologize for it, do what you have to do to make it right, and then forgive yourself. Don’t let the choice own you. We all have errors in judgment. Once it’s over let it go.
What do you do when you find yourself at a crossroad? What steps do you take to ensure your choices honor you and those who love you? Considering where I am in my life, your advice is more than appreciated.
Síochána & Paidreacha (peace & prayers),